A friend recently asked me what are my family’s traditions for Christmas. Besides a formal meal, we also purchase and decorate a Christmas tree, the latter usually to the backdrop of nostalgic Christmas songs and candlelight. But the most familiar tradition, even an oft-lamented one in our materialism-saturated society, is the exchanging of gifts. But I am convinced there is nothing inherently wicked with either the getting or the giving of presents.
Gift and give are newer forms of a presumed old, old root, the Proto-Indo-European (PIE) *ghabh- meaning “to give or receive”. Before it reached English, it appeared in the Old Norse with a definition “gift, good luck”. For a while it was pronounced yiven, before the guttural ‘g’ resurfaced. An initial ‘h’ sound is also associated with the root, developing into the somewhat opposite word have. Isn’t it interesting that giving and receiving are so closely linked that they’re all mixed up with the same family of words?
Present specifically carries the notion of something offered, freely, but before it is received. It is set in the presence of one, placed “before their face”.
The word receive has a more Latin than Germanic heritage, entering English c. 1300, about 200 years after the Norman French conquest of England, from the Old North French, meaning at that time “seize, take hold of, accept”. I like the emphasis on the fact that a gift cannot simply be thrust on someone; the action is interactive, with the receiver willingly taking the gift. In earlier forms, found in Latin, the word meant “regain, take back, recover, take in, or admit”. There’s a sense of vengeance contrasted with the sense of hospitality.
Hospitality is, in Greek, xenia, especially referring to the “rights of a guest or stranger”. There is a city in Ohio named for this word. I think that is a lovely motto of which to be reminded every time one’s city is mentioned. It is not so much seen in our country as in many other nations, including the Israelite tribe whose generosity to the poor and stranger in the land was mandated by the Mosaic Law (see also this passage).
Hospitality is also a French/Latin borrowing, also since the 1300’s. It comes from a word meaning “friendliness to guests”. Compare this to the word host, whose entry at Etymonline.com goes further than the longer form hospitality. Host goes back to the PIE *ghostis- which is supposed to have referred to both the host and the guest, with an original sense of referring to strangers, on whichever side.
In the 1993 movie, “Shadowlands”, based on the life of C.S. Lewis, there is a scene about Christmas in which he is discussing the fate of the season in their mid-century culture:
One [Inkling] laments, “I’m afraid Christmas, as I remember it, is rather a lost cause.”
Jack, as his friends call him, and sounding rather like his voice is echoing out of far-away winter-bound Narnia whispers, “It’s because we’ve lost the magic… You tell people it’s about taking care of the poor and needy, and naturally they don’t even miss it.”
To which his friend, a Roman Catholic priest, responds, “The needy do come into it: ‘no room at the inn,’ remember? The mother and child?”
I do like to remember that. I like that older songs remember that. I like that my friend this year asked for suggestions of how to make our holiday reflect the truth of this verse, “For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though He was rich, yet for your sakes He became poor, that you through His poverty might become rich.” She wanted to know how to celebrate being made rich and to imitate Christ’s poverty-bearing, rich-making love.
There is a tradition of being charitable particularly at Christmas. (This is in the line of other, biblical feast-days, during which kindness to the poor was encouraged in response to God’s blessings of abundance that were being celebrated, especially in the harvest-feasts of Firstfruits and Tabernacles. It is a way to recognize that it is God’s undeserved blessing that provides enough to survive or feast. If we, by pleasing Him, do not relinquish His grace, we are to expect His continued blessings. And He is pleased when we remember the poor and have charity towards them. We can give like the saints in Philippi, depleting our own storehouses, knowing that the God who is using us to care for the poor will faithfully provide for us as well.)
This responsibility to the poor is communicated by the history of the word generous, which originally meant “of noble birth” (same root as genus, referring to biological descent and classification into kinds or races or families) and only by implications of the duty, of those blessed with more, to share with those who have less did it come to mean “magnanimous”.
Benevolence, “disposition to do good”, is a compound word, from the Latin bene “well” and volantem “to wish”.
Alms is another term for this benevolence. In Old English it was ælmesse, occurring also in German, and Latin, where it is spelled eleemosyna. This was, in turn, borrowed from the Greek eleemosyne, referring to “pity, mercy”. In modern English, though rare, it means a gift, especially of money or food, given out to the needy.
Charity is from the Old French, “charity, mercy, compassion; alms” from Latin, “costliness, esteem, affection”. Isn’t it instructive, the impulse of expressing love by costly, sacrificial giving? It can be satisfying, and blessed, to give.
Love is, by own definition, the giving of a treasure. Treasure comes from the same Greek root as thesaurus, and it means “hoard, storehouse, treasury” – presumably of something worth enough to be collected and kept safe. Can stores be shared? What does it say when one is willing to disperse a hoard?
Donation is attested in Latin, donum, “gift”, from the PIE *donum. The same word is found in Sanskrit: danam “offering, present” and in Old Irish dan, “gift, endowment, talent”.
In my family’s tradition, the focus is more on expressing love to one another than to those less fortunate. Our gifts are an exchange, late 1300’s, “act of reciprocal giving and receiving”, from the Latin ex- “out” and cambire “barter”. Cambire is supposed to be of Celtic origin, the PIE *kemb- “to bend”, developing in the sense of altering the current state, then specifically changing something by putting something else in its place.
At Christmas especially, the packages under the tree are almost always wrapped, so as to be a surprise. Unexpectedly, this word used to mean only “a taking unawares; unexpected attack or capture”. The roots are sur- “over” and prendre “to take, grasp, seize”. It might be ironic that though we think of thinly cloaked gifts as surprises, at Christmas they are not always unforeseen or unexpected; who hasn’t made a Christmas wish list? In fact, it is perhaps a disadvantage of our custom: that gifts come to be expected, or even demanded, by the recipients.
When the word wrap appeared in English around AD 1300, it meant “to wind, cover, conceal, bind up, swaddle”. I think we do this to increase the ornamental feeling of festivity, not as a symbol of the baby Jesus being similarly wrapped before being placed in a manger.
Swaddle seems to come from a word meaning a slice or strip.
Ribbon, which often adorns our gifts, might have a similar historic meaning, if it is related to band, “a flat strip” and “something that binds”, a rejoining of two divergent threads of Middle English, distinguished at one point by different spellings, band referring to joining together and bande to a strip or even a stripe (where it likely morphed into ribane, a stripe in a material). The original root of band is, PIE *bendh- “to bind”.
Something else we use to hold things together when we’re wrapping them? Tape. My cousin says, “tape, lots of tape.” This Old English tæppe is a “narrow strip of cloth used for tying or measuring”. It could be formed from the Latin for “cloth, carpet”, tapete, or it might be related to the Middle Low German tapen, “to pull, pluck, tear”.
(These words are so fun, the way they communicate the action by which the thing got to be – or the state that inspired and enabled an action. What was life like for the people who named a strip of fabric tape? Well, maybe they were pulling on cloth {reminiscent of one of my favorite Christmas movies, “Little Women”, where the ladies of the house spend time tearing old sheets into strips to be used as bandages for those soldiers wounded in the American Civil War}. Why would they do that? To have something with which to bind things together. It’s a different world from our manufacturing-driven lifestyles, where tape and ribbon and string are purchased in packages off of shelves. They’re things made originally for their purposes, not improvised from something else. It’s like a history lesson in a word!)
The other reason we think of gifts during the holiday season in which we remember God’s entry into our world in human flesh is because His birth was honored by gifts from wise visitors from the East. These men recognized that Jesus was born to be the King, the long-prophesied King of the everlasting kingdom. And though this God-King could have turned stones into bread, and summoned armies of angels, He chose to experience poverty. Though He experienced the lowliness of being born to a poor mother and living as a refugee, a stranger, in Egypt, he was honored by costly gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh when a very young boy.
Such is the nature not only of love, to give sacrificially, but also of worship. How remiss would any of us be, to overlook the presence of the Highest King? Not only is His worth expressed by Kings giving Him treasures; it is demonstrated by the “sacrifice of praise” every person can offer: The Christmas carols sing that the wise men have “come to pay Him homage,” Old French “allegiance or respect for one’s feudal lord”, from Latin homo, “man”. Or in “What Child Is This?” we are bid to “haste, haste, to bring Him laud”, also Old French, “praise, extol” from Latin laus, “praise, fame, glory”. A cognate, or brother-word in Old English was leoð, “song, poem, hymn”. He is worthy of the richest treasures. We owe Him everything we have, everything that is. We also owe Him our allegiance, our praise, our songs.
To God be all glory,
Lisa of Longbourn
Many thanks and credit to the resources of www.Etymonline.com and www.Dictionary.Reference.com in compiling these definitions and histories. Also to www.BlueLetterBible.org for Scriptures.
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Hands on Head
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Simon says? Exercises? Arrests? Hide and go seek? Illegal hands to the face?
My hands have spent a lot of time on my head lately. Life is too big for me sometimes. Like this week. At my church I’ve been teaching a women’s Sunday morning Bible study on Ephesians. Have you ever looked at a hill from a distance and thought you could get to the top in an hour or two, only to discover when you get closer that the hill is a mountain with no scalable paths? And for a breathless, unmeasurable time, you think you’ll never make it; you wonder why you tried. At the last possible moment, wings come in, sweeping you up like the eagles to hobbits on Mount Doom. God’s grace comes beneath your weakness, and through no fault of your own, you’re at the top, taking down your hands from your face to enjoy the view.
I watched a movie the other night. It wasn’t a really good movie. The cinematography was unique, and the acting was superb. Anthony Hopkins, playing a familiarly dramatic role, was suppressing his emotions, and trying to hide them. He kept holding his face in front of his eyes as if shielding them from a light, when really he was shielding tears from sight. Even when there aren’t people to see me, I keep putting my hand over my eyes. Actually, at twenty-three, it’s hard to cry anymore, so the gesture is an act of the will to indicate emotion I can’t express any other way. But the emotions, even at my age, must be expressed.
A friend and I are starting a small group for high school girls, and quite frankly, I don’t know where to start in connecting with them. Emma describes Robert Martin to her friend Harriet (in the Gwyneth Paltrow adaptation) as a man as much above her notice as below it. Is evangelism and discipleship like that? Either people know they need discipleship and God’s grace because they’re that mature or because they’re that empty? And I’m looking at some of these girls seeing so much need, but they’re not quite broken enough yet to value it, and I don’t know how to start a conversation or to whet an appetite for a close relationship with God. I guess it’s all up to Him.
Psalm 32 contains God’s promise to guide me with His eyes. So maybe putting my palms over my eyes is a way of getting me to follow Him, recognizing my own lack of wisdom. Too bad God has to force me into faith.
Then recently every time I try to get on the internet (check my library due dates, blog, check messages, look up movie times) I have to refresh a hundred times, and it still doesn’t work. I’m so inefficient, and end up doing a fraction of the things I’d intended with a day. That’s a cause of frustrated grasping of my head.
Maybe excitement could explain the frequent movement, too. This week quite unexpectedly I made my first sale on my business website: www.LadyofLongbourn.com Another exciting find was a website about Hebrew alphabets and words that argues for a Hebrew – or Edenic (long story) – etymology for most words worldwide. True or not my mind has been spinning with possibilities, and I’m finding it incredibly easy to learn new Hebrew words. But then I always have.
On Monday I got a bargain at the thrift store, and spent less than $3 on a brand new CD of classic hymns sung by the amazing St. Olaf’s Choir. St. Olaf is a Lutheran Bible College whose incredible music department was featured on TV this Christmas season. My brother and I stayed up irrationally (but not atypically) late watching it one night. The beauty – the gift of it so touched me that I put my hands to my head.
Dad and I went to the Colorado Republican caucus on Tuesday, which was an experience in disorganization and disbelief you wouldn’t, uh, believe! Do you know the actual rules stated that ties in our precinct should be decided by a coin toss? No one had any idea what they were doing, and since I couldn’t help us out, I put my hands on my head.
Sunday I sat on the floor in my sanctuary, which was an exciting change. You’ve no idea how many times I wanted to sit on the floor instead of formal, uncomfortable, modern chairs. Mary of Bethany sat at Jesus’ feet, and that is quite my preference. I probably won’t do it all the time; I fought against feeling self-conscious. But it was neat to experience freedom in that way.
The Superbowl… Ok, to stop all scorn in its tracks, I babysat for a neighborhood outreach party put on by a church plant in Denver, and then hung out with everyone for the last quarter, so it isn’t like I was idolizing football or anything. The Superbowl was a nail-biter, quite exciting. I couldn’t believe some of the plays I witnessed. Nice escape, interesting throw, and impossible catch for essential first down. Yep. I even know what I’m talking about. Hands over my eyes.
Monday was a rambling day, much like this post. How beautiful to spend unhurried time at the library, wandering around, thinking, scurrying back and forth from the movie shelves to the computers (which work!) there, as an idea of another movie to watch came to mind… And then on Wednesday I got to go to tea with a new friend. Tea, yes. I had mint chai, which is just as good as the other varieties I’ve had. With enough sugar almost any tea tastes good, I think. I just needed to get tea done the British way, with milk, too.
I’ve been doing much praying for a special person, name to be announced sometime after I learn it myself. My expectations for him are so high that it’s only right I support him now, already, in prayer. But then I miss him. And I cover my face shutting out the vastness of the world that separates him from me – but, of course, all in God’s capable and good hands. Um. That was code. It all means that I wonder where my husband is, and when he’ll come, and want him to be here sooner than later, but I have no idea who or where He is. But God knows, and I trust God.
This week I spoke with a few friends about honesty, and how we wish the world would let us say the truth, say what’s on our hearts without code or offense. At least with them I’ll practice it. I hope they will with me. No mask here. Which reminds me – I’ve watched several movies with masks or masquerades in them recently. Lots of movies.
But movies always make me think. A movie I want to see as of today is Penelope, due to limited release on February 29. The fantasy, fairy-tale-ish story has a message of honesty, of taking the hands from the face and being yourself for all the world to see and know – even risking the hurt.
YLCF was a special blessing this evening, since the most recent post specifically addressed the topic of waiting for one’s handsome prince, and what to do while you wait. I know those things. I certainly rebel on occasion. The reminder was important to get me refocused, to seek the most excellent and most fulfilling.
I’m craving tea: my mom’s blackberry, which I never like. The clock, at almost midnight after a long day, declines my craving. In fact I even have to stop my ramble through writing. This post is the way I used to write emails to my friends: late at night, a summary of a dozen thoughts and events that come together to form a sort of three-strand theme. If my brother were writing, this would be a strongly metaphorical poem (trying to make sense of which would bring my hands once again to my head). My other brother would tell a wonderful allegory. I’m trying to get the latter to guest blog here sometime. He has a great story about orange juice…
Ramble away in the comments. Feel free to put the unconcise, irrelevant, unfinished thoughts you can’t submit as an English paper, or publish on your blog, or tell your friends when they ask how you are doing. Good night.
To God be all glory,
Lisa of Longbourn
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